tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7249203692582539385.post4214757092099841711..comments2023-06-16T02:14:56.246-07:00Comments on Ink to Paper: The Idea of SettlingCassandra Shofarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13015421552353140022noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7249203692582539385.post-35167281209276660052012-07-02T07:25:43.482-07:002012-07-02T07:25:43.482-07:00Definitely very good points :-) I love getting dif...Definitely very good points :-) I love getting different feedback. Actually, you've pretty much described something very similar to what I wrote in my post last year about love in general http://cshofar.blogspot.com/2011/07/love.html<br /><br />In that one, I described it as a rose or flower, but similar concept. You have control, to some degree, over what it becomes, if it grows, if it dies, stays stagnant, how much you nourish it and let it grow, how much you drown it or suffocate it. But, as far as settling, I certainly wasn't insinuating to follow the "Grass is always greener" concept. Rather, the opposite. Working hard and putting effort into our lives, sometimes seeing hard truths (about ourselves or others) and facing them, going out of our comfort zones to chase our dreams, follow our hearts, intuition and having enough respect for ourselves to walk away from something that isn't healthy, etc. We have so much untapped potential that dies upon resignation. I guess that was my point. Plus, this post was definitely not just in reference to relationships. That's the beauty of writings, each person takes from it what they choose to or what applies to them.Cassandra Shofarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13015421552353140022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7249203692582539385.post-63590861889835047022012-07-02T06:28:43.886-07:002012-07-02T06:28:43.886-07:00This is a very good topic Cassandra... I also shar...This is a very good topic Cassandra... I also share your feelings and concerns, and one thing I have learned is that even though the grass might look greener, it could also be full of weeds... Any time we feel as though we are settling, we alwas have the "what if"... Makes you a good writer, no doubt... But at the same time, you may be searching for impossibilities... Maybe not, but I find that whenever I seem to look another direction, and think maybe it could be better... I only think about the good parts. My imagination runs wild with all of my ideals built into one person, and then the problem is, in my mind and situation in life, that person in my mind will always change... hell almost daily... If you try to look at it the other way, it may open your own mind to new perspectives... Like, what do you feel a guy sees in you, that you could be everything he dreams about? Could you? If not, how can you work towards that? Or, should that just be the way it is? I mean, that sounds nice and all but... Now, I'm not saying just find somebody and deal with it, no... But once you do find a reasonable home... If you want your grass to look the greenest, you need to water it, and care for it, just like any other lawn... Sorry it's a tired metaphor but, one I feel is easily related to... But throughout life, we watch fairy tails, and there is always a girls dreams of prince charming, or for guys, the girl that fits the glass slipper... Shouldn't be a one size fits all but... i dunno... Good luck!Toddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08000855404812790322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7249203692582539385.post-38842077026631700902012-07-01T19:34:38.341-07:002012-07-01T19:34:38.341-07:00Yes, I definitely agree about loving and learning ...Yes, I definitely agree about loving and learning to love the good things in our lives always. And not living in contempt. But that, too, is a form of work and striving for something more I think. Then again, the things and people who touch my soul and ignite me have been easy for me to love. Finding, going after and working for those things and people ... That's not always so easy ;-) Settling, however, was in reference to giving up, resignation, not chasing after your dreams and following your heart. Or, in one of my past cases, settling to love rather than be IN love. Staying with someone or in a job because it's comfortable, safe and secure, etc.... Figuring out the parts of you you're willing to compromise and the parts you'll fight for until your last breath. So in that context, where love, my career and the way I spend the rest of my years on this earth are concerned, I've decided settling ... just won't do.Cassandra Shofarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13015421552353140022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7249203692582539385.post-65694344467848708772012-07-01T18:35:22.999-07:002012-07-01T18:35:22.999-07:00Very insightful,as always.I think on our journey t...Very insightful,as always.I think on our journey threw this wonderful thing we call life, you must try to see the difference between settling and contemptment . Because happness stems from learning to love what you already have. That way we have much gratitude for what we're about to receive. And of course this only applies to good things in your life...<br />:-)Gerald Kazmirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14189300316556585032noreply@blogger.com